What do you do when you agree to buy knife and it's sold to another?

FlaMtnBkr

FlaMtnBkr

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Just curious if anyone has had this happen and what you do? I PMed someone that I would buy a knife. The next day he PMed and sent me an email back in the early afternoon. I asked about payment options and exchanged a few emails. I then get an email saying someone else had posted they wanted it before me and I was out of luck. However, we had discussed me buying the knife in depth and the person who he sold it to posted in the thread the day after I first contacted him at almost 9 pm.

Do you just let it go and try not to be upset? Do you post here letting other know of the re-neg? This hasn't happened to me before and had I had my bank account in order quicker he would have already been paid before the other person posted and he decided to sell to him.

I should probably just get over it as I'm not going to get the knife but I'm annoyed and want to get others opinions.
 
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I too have had this happen and at first I get pretty ticked but then I realize its just a knife and a little bit of wasted time. Put em on ignore and you will forget it in no time. More good stuff will show up on the exchange, probably an even better deal :thumbup:
 
Every seller has the right to sell to whom they choose. They are not obligated to sell to the first person who has replied to their thread with an "i'll take it". While it may be somewhat poor form on their part and upsetting to you, it is just better to move on and look elsewhere.
As there was no transaction completed, good or bad, a thread here would be unecessary and could be viewed as an act of spite.
 
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You said that you exchanged several e-mails and that your bank account wasn't in order right away. Were you negotiating price or unable to make a payment during the period between you saying that you wanted it and another person getting it?
 
FlaMtnBkr said:
I should probably just get over it as I'm not going to get the knife but I'm annoyed and want to get others opinions.
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You already know the correct answer.:thumbup:

I understand your irritation, but life is way to short to let the little stuff bother you.
 
When you agree to purchase and can't make payment right away, some sellers aren't going to wait on it.

I sold 3 knives in one thread and two have been shipped long ago and the other is still boxed and waiting on payment. The party buying it never had any communication with me other than posting I will take it, in the thread. (emailed payment information, didn't hear back afterwards if he received it OK) I contacted him after a week asking if he still wanted it. He said yes and he would send payment. I don't mind holding it for him, but many do expect to be paid right away after a commitment to buy is made.

They may need the funds and it's also just good manners to be able to make payment right away after agreeing to purchase.
 
I asked about payment options and exchanged a few emails.
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Sounds like the deal wasn't finished.

"Ill take it and will send funds upon confirmation"- Is how I respond and then send payment upon confirmation. Anything less is still haggling.
 
I started this thread just to see what others would do. I didn't think that every word was going to be scrutinized. This happened almost a week ago and combined with my hazy short term memory from chemo I didn't remember all the details and the exact timeline. Everything I said was true but there was more to it. There was an extra day thrown in and we had completed the deal and as far as he knew a MO was on the way as he had accepted everything and sent me his address. When he emailed me saying the other person posted before I contacted him I hadn't been to the PO yet as it is nearly an hour away but I could have earlier in the day. I wrote him back pointing out email times and post times showing I had actually contacted him 24 hours before the other person and he stopped responding at that point.

I should have had all my facts straight before I posted but it was just a post to see what others would do. It seems like no one thinks it is a big deal to back out after a deal was made and payment was arranged. I figured it would be a bigger issue around here but I guess not.
 
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As others have said, it sounds like you were still negotiating either a "lay away" plan or convenient time to get to the PO, at least in the sellers eyes. In the meantime another buyer came along with a true unconditional "I'll take it" with cash-in-hand ready to close the deal. Forget about it.
 
Ramm9 said:
As others have said, it sounds like you were still negotiating either a "lay away" plan or convenient time to get to the PO, at least in the sellers eyes. In the meantime another buyer came along with a true unconditional "I'll take it" with cash-in-hand ready to close the deal. Forget about it.
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It doesn't sound like that to me. If his very first PM clearly said "I'll take it", and the seller agreed to sell, then it is bad form for the seller to sell it out from under his first buyer, especially after having sent the address so the seller could get a MO.

Despite that bad form, there is no good recourse for one wronged in this way. You might direct the seller to this thread, and see if would care to explain himself in public. There is often two sides to a story.
 
It won't help now, but as soon as you two worked a deal you should have went to the thread and posted the, "I'll take it.. as comfirmed in our email" in the sales thread. All would have knew you had a deal worked out.

The first to put the "I'll take it" in the thread gets the knife in my sales. But when someone sends me a email/PM saying they want it, I will go to thread as fast as I can and mark it SPF before someone post the "I'll take it" in the thread(like I did today). Sounds like he should have done that if you two had a solid deal worked out.

Just make sure to always put the "I'll take it" in thread. And if by email/PM also ask them to mark it SPF as soon as the deal is agreed upon.
No offence, just trying to help.
 
I just sold a few knives and I had a reason to sell them because I needed funds for something right away. I had people that wanted me to wait for their funds but that would have defeated the whole purpose of me selling knives at low prices. I did that so I can sell them quick. If I had time to wait it may have been a different story but I didn't.
 
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It doesn't sound like that to me. If his very first PM clearly said "I'll take it", and the seller agreed to sell, then it is bad form for the seller to sell it out from under his first buyer, especially after having sent the address so the seller could get a MO.

Despite that bad form, there is no good recourse for one wronged in this way. You might direct the seller to this thread, and see if would care to explain himself in public. There is often two sides to a story.
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I have sent him 2 emails since he last contacted me telling me about the other person and neither were answered. I really don't see him coming here and exposing himself.

I am not here to out the guy or drag him through the mud. I have no reason to lie and there is no reason for anyone to imply what I have said is not the truth. The facts are a deal was struck and agreed upon and I was lucky that I didn't get up and go to the PO first thing in the morning and send a MO because I don't know what would happen except my money would be floating around the country. I just wanted to know what others would have done if what I have explained, happened to them. Pretend it is a hypothetical question and that what I have said is the situation you were faced.

Anyways I guess there is nothing to do. I guess I write the guy off and make sure to never email him and lump him into the same category as liars. Maybe he just screwed up and didn't mean to but with time stamps on everything and the fact he stopped communicating makes me leery.

Edit: I don't know what he is doing but it looks like he raised the prices on the knives and the one I bought is still listed for sale while others are listed as SPF or Sold. He just joined in Jan of this year so who knows what if he is even trustworthy. He also added MO only so there is no recourse to get your money back and he has no feedback but does have ~250 posts.
 
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You're not gonna let this one go are ya?? You should, you didn't lose anything, right? Just move on.
 
You didn't lose anything, but bad form on the seller's part.

I then get an email saying someone else had posted they wanted it before me and I was out of luck.
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If someone else had said, "I'll take it." before you, whether in the topic posts or PM, the seller should not have been negotiating details with you in the first place.

What I wonder, if the seller got a higher offer then wanted out of your deal?

Edit: I don't know what he is doing but it looks like he raised the prices on the knives and the one I bought is still listed for sale while others are listed as SPF or Sold.
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I think you should boycott the seller if that's the case.
 
FlaMtnBkr said:
Edit: I don't know what he is doing but it looks like he raised the prices on the knives and the one I bought is still listed for sale while others are listed as SPF or Sold. He just joined in Jan of this year so who knows what if he is even trustworthy. He also added MO only so there is no recourse to get your money back and he has no feedback but does have ~250 posts.
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That is very bad form.
 
long story short is ya can sell your stuff to whomever ya wanna sell it to, it is, after all, your stuff.

ya shouldnt let it bug ya anyway rarely can you not find the same thing for sale elsewhere, sometimes cheaper to boot, i know its easy to get aggravated over stuff like that but just shrug it off and find another knife or whatever it was, when i 1st started collecting knives i had a lotta aggravation because i didnt wanna wait for anything either but i learned that ya can always find what ya want if ya keep looking.
 
SIFU1A said:
long story short is ya can sell your stuff to whomever ya wanna sell it to, it is, after all, your stuff.
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+1

Don't let it bother you, I've been knocked back on probably +80% of the knives I have tried to buy here based purely on the fact I am not from the US. People can sell to who ever they want, when they want. All though it's defo. a little shady to back out once the ball is rolling that's just the way some folks are and the way life is.
 
FlaMtnBkr said:
Pretend it is a hypothetical question and that what I have said is the situation you were faced.
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You got lucky. If this is the kind of confusion surrounding him before you sent money,
how would you feel once you paid him, -- and still couldn't get an answer to an email?

People like this -- whether malicious or just incompetent -- are not worth dealing with.
Let him grow up and learn how we do business here on someone else's dime.
 
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