All good comments.
The thing that really gets me is that I would be willing to bet that nearly every person who posts that something is too expensive and thus they have to use a cheaper alternative ( which often is barely any cheaper), uses a cell phone with unlimited minutes and texting, has cable with the extras, drinks/smokes/eats fast food/coffee or some non-necessity,.......well you get the idea. It is those things that are actually expensive, but many folks don't see it.
One of the gals at work started bringing her lunch recently. She said she realized that she spends about $5-7 dollars for lunch, three days a week. That is $1000 a year. She makes a nicer lunch for about $2. Now most of the gals bring their lunch.
My wife is an attorney. She does a lot of bankruptcy work for Tidewater Legal Aid. These folks are poor and hurting to say the least. When she does the worksheet with them she looks it over, and asks about their other expenses. They look clueless, until she asks:
Do they eat out and how often - usually McD's,BK,KFC and the bill is usually $20 at least two or three times a week.
Why is their cable bill $180/mo? - because we watch PPV, four movie channels, etc.
Why is their cell phone bill $240/mo - Because my three daughters ( age 9,11,15), my husband, my son, ands me all need a internet capable texting phone with unlimited minutes.
Why do you have three cars? - Because my husband needs one, I need one (works one mile from the house), and my son (High school junior) needs one to drive to school.
Do you smoke? How much? - About a pack a day.
I see you have a Sears bill for $90/mo what is that for? - The wide screen TV and home entertainment system.
Etc, Etc.
Once she works out a budget the trustee will approve, they suddenly find that there have several hundred dollars a month to spare. Sadly, many are back in a year or two with money problems.
Don't get me wrong, I realize that there are many on this forum who have virtually no expendable cash, and that any hobby projects are done on the cheap. The point of this thread was that some folks complain ( on the forum) that steel or oil is expensive, but spend far more on things that they never think twice about, and often use substitutes that are nearly as expensive.
I got an email once from a forumite that thought I was an elitist. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am far from it. I came from very simple immigrant stock, had no frills growing up. Worked hard, played harder, and paid my own way. I have a comfortable life, but not fancy ( beyond a good single malt now and then). I don't have any premium channels on the cable,text on the phone ( which is a plain freebie),eat out too often, out two cars are a 1998 Escort and a 2001 Voyager ( saved up and paid cash for both) My smithy and back yard look like those of a lot of other members of this forum...stacked full of stuff (stuff is the polite word for a lot of junk). I turn down job offers nearly every year that would double my income...because I don't want to work in a Mall for a big chain store, dealing with snob customers. Some of my favorite customers wear old jeans, drive a (nice by usable) truck, deal with us as equals, aren't demanding,......and could probably buy the whole store inventory in cash.
Stacy