I guess it's ok to post this question here. I am looking at getting a hand gun for home defense. Me and the wife are going to get it together, taking the safety course together and will be going to the range together. I want her to be part of the whole process, and want her to be absolutely comfortable shooting it. The thing is, I know absolutely nothing about guns. I'm looking for some suggestions on what type, brand and caliber to consider. I know there is a better area to post this question, but I honestly value the opinions of those in this subforum more than anywhere else. I also though by posting here I could avoid the "You need to get two AR-15s" type of answers. Thanks, and if this isn't an appropriate discussion for here, please feel free to delete this post.