Life and learning from experience.
Chaos. That simple one word can describe a heck of a lot. Like moving from one state to halfway across country to another. Buying a house and making it yours, even through the hassle of remodeling. Especially when the contractor is less than stellar. But you learn to handle adversity, and keep going. You also learn what you don't need to get by nicely.
We gave away, donated to local thrift shop for the animal shelter, ditched, and threw out a heck of a lot of stuff. We were determined to fit everything into the rented Penske truck, and just planed to wait to see what we'd need on the other end. Going from a three level theee bedroom home to a one level two bedroom home, we were doing some serious downsizing. I told Karen that we shouldn't kid ourselves, this was the last stop, the little retirement home that would be our last dwelling. We both wanted small, easy to clean and maintain, and cozy. With an IKEA right down the road, we'd get what we needed if and when we needed it.
I think we need to go through some adversity now and then just to bring things back into a sort of perspective. To reboot the psyche now and then. But most of all, packing things up and living out of a duffle bag at the bottom of someone else's closet was a great lesson in what I didn't need to be well and happy. From the begging on November until mid December, we lived at Karen's sister Diane's place. All our stuff was in a self storage unit, so we did with little. All I can say is, how liberating it was, Moving into the house in mid December, we still had all our stuff in boxes in the garage because the master bath renovation was ongoing. We still got by with a duffle bags worth of stuff. Now all settled in, I look back and wonder why I ever had all that stuff back in Maryland?
Maybe we need to move every two or three years to keep our stuff trimmed down?
I do know that the past three months has changed how I look at things very much. All my possessions now get scrutinized, and I think about if I have the big one this afternoon, how much mess will my family have to deal with? I remember one friend who had his last surviving parent pass away, and he had to have a company drop off a dumpster on the front lawn. Agggg! I thank the good Lord above that we have already given the kids and others all the stuff we didn't really need, and there won't be a lot to deal with.
But what has been taught is, all the material stuff doesn't matter a tinkers d---m. It's all just stuff. Whatthis move has taught me, is family is more important than any material possessions. Guns, knives, clothes whatever. Just stuff. Being now in the same town with Karen's sisters, being just a day and halfs drive away from daughter Jess and Granddaughter Bree, is better than being on the opposite side of the continent. Maybe getting older makes one confront ones own mortality in an honest way. I do know that I now have had a huge change in attitudes about a lot of things. No longer worry about the piddling stuff I used to think about too much. Now I just want to revel in the nice sunset, a slow pipe on the patio out back, the sound of doves in the Spanish oaks that shade the yard. Simple pleasures of life shared with loved ones.