Dear Bruce,
Originally posted by bruce:
This thread is one of the greatest examples of group dynamics I've ever seen! "Meanwhile, Spark, who wants to be known as the administrator for the "kindler, gentler, forum--not like that other, now defunct forum that died because of it's flame wars and backbiting, lobs the grenade (known as Scarman) at Dannyc. Danny, who has let the cancerous lesion he affectionately calls "what Scarman did to me" continue to eat at his soul, strikes at the bait Spark lays in front of him. Dannyc is hooked and thrashes wildly through this thread.
First of all, please don't blame Spark on this one. He did something that I didn't have the balls to do in the first place, and that is to put everything in public. Why, you may ask? Simple. I TRUSTED THE GUY. I'm the kind of person who trusts easily.
I could believe this thread if it were being perpetuated by children. I thought adults acted better. The worst thing that could happen to Dannyc is that Scarman immediately refunds his money because then he wouldn't have anything to say! Oh he'd probably bring it up in six months anyway with a thread title like, "Remember when that jerk, Scarman, ......"
Oh geez... gimme a break, Bruce. You don't know me, so please don't judge me right away as to what I'm going/not going to do in six months time. And hey, that's not the worse thing that could happen to me if ever, that would be the BEST thing to happen if ever. Please don't confuse the two.
But it never happened, did it? That's why this thread came up.
Scarman may have done everything Dannyc says he did, I don't know, but what did Dannyc do for six months!
You really wanna know?
1.) Hope
2.) emailing him for status of package
3.) more emails that eventually never got replied to.
4.) pondering on how to go about this without bringing it out in public.
5.) consulted with forumite friends.
6.) waited some more
If this happened to you, Bruce, what would YOU have done? Patience is a virtue I have learned all these years living alone, and surviving on my own, from scratch. Can you say the same?
It sounds like Scarman let time get away from him without someone keeping the pressure on--and the one to do that was Dannyc. This should and could have been resolved in the 30 days the USPS needed to investigate and pay the insurance. I think you both (Scarman and Dannyc) need a spanking and to be sent to the "time out" corner!
Let's put it this way... I didn't put any pressure, BUT told him that I trust him to do whatever's possible to get it done and over with. Would putting pressure on Scarman benefit me? Hell no! He had family problems back then (whether true or not) and I'm not the type to take advantage of a problem to create other problems for the guy.
Spark, explain to me again how this forum is better than that other one?
It's sad to see how you feel about BFC. I consider this last remark an insult, if not a low blow. Sure I've seen some action in some no-so-good threads in the past, but I have yet to see anybody posting such remarks on something that the Administrator of this site did to help a fellow forumite.
I don't see any contracts being signed about how you have to stay with BFC if you find the contents displeasing to your eyes. If you feel that the other forum is better, nobody's stopping you.
Dan
[This message has been edited by Dannyc (edited 01-07-2000).]