I have been up for nearly 30 hrs at this point, so I am not going to take the time to read this entire thread. Doing so would not significantly change what I am going to say; but it would delay my response (and likely reduce my ability to make it without rambling). My plan is simply to make my statement - I have no expectation of my response satisfying the masses. In all likelihood, I will (after sleeping) read through the entire thread
I may, or may not, respond further after doing so.
Let me start by saying, yes, I chose to retract my purchase due to the seller posting/leaving my name in the sale thread. However, I did send him a message first, requesting that he remove it. I realize that most of you will not understand that, because posting Ill take it to claim an item is common practice on this site. Im not going to waste words trying to explain my rationale let it suffice to say that I do not purchase items here by claiming them publicly; and, accordingly, I do not want my name posted as the purchaser. I have, occasionally, been refused an item because I was unwilling to make an Ill take it post to document the purchase.
Back to issue: Upon seeing that the seller posted my name in the ad, I immediately sent him a message asking that he remove it. I went back to the ad, and noted that there were 4 members viewing it the seller was not one of them. (That fact has bearing.) I was away from the computer for approximately 10 minutes
when I returned, I checked first for a response to my message, then went back to the ad. The seller was now listed as viewing the ad my thought at that moment was that he was going to remove my username. After refreshing the page a few times to check, I continued getting ready to leave. When I checked back, the seller was no longer viewing the thread I dont recall if he was shown as online. I sent him another PM stating that I didnt know why he chose not to remove my name, but that it was a deal breaker for me. At that time, I asked for a refund. Under more ideal circumstances, we would have exchanged PMs on the matter, and things would have ended there. Unfortunately, time was not on our side I was going to be away from home for 14 hrs (possibly more), I couldnt count on having an opportunity to even come online in that time, and I wanted to make sure there was no doubt about the transaction being cancelled. With those things in mind, I went to PayPal.
I was reasonably certain that there was no Cancel Purchase button; but I wanted to see if there was an acceptable option for notifying the seller. There was not. Thats right I recognize that filing a claim was a poor option; but it was really the only official option available, so I used it. The message I sent with the claim suggested no wrongdoing on the part of the seller it was As per my message on BF, I am cancelling the purchase. Do not ship the item. Please refund my payment. I fully expected hard feelings from the seller on the matter because I took that step
it was unfortunate; but I was willing to accept them.
Seeing the number of posts that have already been made, and having viewed enough of these threads, Im sure that many have already made negative comments about me. Along with that likely comes the vows to put me on ignore or not deal with me. I wont say that I dont care about such things; but, we all make our decisions on who to deal with based on whatever information we have, and the real world impact is rather small. Im thick skinned enough not to suffer much distress over the sting of such comments. There are more things Im inclined to say; but I dont know that there is much reason to continue. Im tired, and I have already gone on (and deleted) a few tangents. I realize that this post won't make cancelling in that manner "right" in anybody's eyes; but, again, I'm not trying to justify it.
In case anybody suggests (or has suggested) that it was a matter of buyer remorse - that is not the case. I had already paid for the knife, and I didn't change my mind about wanting it. I fully admit that I did not wait an "acceptable" amount of time to assess the seller's response. In fact, if I was reading this situation, I would be critical of the timeline.
To the people that contacted me to make me aware of this thread thank you - I wish I could have responded earlier.
