Sort of side related topic:
In middle and high school, I wound up on the school's debate team. I'd had lots of practice with my dad (who was about as hardheaded and stubborn as they came

).
I developed a particularly ruthless style for winning debates, basically trapping an opponent in their position, locking them in place so they couldn't try to weasel out with the, "Well, I actually meant...", then proceeding to absolutely demolish and obliterate their position, point by point, in essence, browbeating them with information and data.
It wasn't a particularly tactful strategy. It was targeted at destroying and humiliating an opponent, and make them look dumb. It won, often, but it was never designed to make friends,... just to make someone seem unintelligent and ill informed in front of the judges/viewers.
It was a revelation to realize that there was another way, after seeing skilled speakers/debaters, who have the ability and technique to bring 'opponents' around to their point of view. A style that made no enemies. I regret not focusing on developing those skills when I learned of them.
I try, sometimes, but my lack of patience tends to wind up with me going back to what I'm used to.