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hi John

in your first post, your edit mentions it was done due to 'clarity'. From the little I know of you, I am sure you will find clarity in your decisions. Just hang on in there.
 
Smoke and positive energy up tonight and tomorrow outside with fresh Blue Spruce logs:)

I have a personal belief that I must do my best to never tell another person how to feel Love, define Patriotism, nor how to recognize a Higher Power in their lives. I have done my best to carry this belief to raising my children and being with my wife these 22 years. I may suggest and give options that I feel work for me, and that's all:)
That being said, I asked my Great Grandfather, just before I got married, what was the secret to being happily married as long as he and Great Gramma were? He told me something that I do to this day. He said every morning, as he wakes up, he re-invents himself and makes a plan for how he is going to make her fall in Love with him that day.
That's sometimes very hard work for me, as I can be a real asshat:)

Be Good To Yourself and Each Other
Mark
 
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Smoke and prayers are up. Readjustment fter combat can be a real bitch. Luckily there is much much more understanding and assistance available now than when I went through it. Take advantage of all the help available. As for the relationship if it's over let it go. Don't be torturin yourself thinking "if i'd done... then maybe...".
 
Good thoughts and prayers from Kat and me for peace and clarity. :)
 
Guys, I don't think my deployment is the cause, or even a major contributor.

At one point last year, Jordy suggested it was. I believe it was taking almost double a full load at graduate school, while working full-time most of the semester, and also observing in local classrooms. Money and time were, I feel, my big issues.
 
Money and time always will be bro. You guys have to overcome that stuff.

Are y'all still under one roof? Whatever you do, stay.
 
Yes, we're still in the same house, though I moved into a different bedroom Sunday night.

I greatly appreciate all the kind thoughts, smoke, and prayers. Though I wouldn't call myself joyful right now, I am at least doing considerably better than the last two days- I've even eaten the equivalent of two full meals today! :D

John
 
Slow and steady. Don't leave. There is no other way.
 
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Yes, we're still in the same house, though I moved into a different bedroom Sunday night.

I greatly appreciate all the kind thoughts, smoke, and prayers. Though I wouldn't call myself joyful right now, I am at least doing considerably better than the last two days- I've even eaten the equivalent of two full meals today! :D
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Keep your chin up buddy.

After my father passed on, when i decided to seek counciling, they used to tell me to make sure to eat well ,as lack of proper nutrition can alter moods greatly, especially in stressful situations. "Take care of yourself and everything else will follow".
I already hated eating somewhat, always have and I first thought that statement felt a bit selfish, but it rings true, as long as you give your body what it needs it will help elevate moods and in turn you'll be able to face your problems and have strength to help others and overcome.

More smoke and prayer sent.

And thank you for serving our country, guys like you are what make guys like me proud to be american.
 
I'm very sorry to see this so late...

John, I am grieved for both of you.

I will pray, for sure. My own brother is in the process of leaving his wife. It is heartbreaking.

I've been in dark places many times in my 20 years of marriage, and my poor wife has too. Andy is right, the absolute commitment is very important. It does take both, however.

Sounds like a crossroad indeed. Take the issues one at a time, as much as you can. While there is hope for your marriage, make that your priority.

I know you are familiar with the Bible. Give Ephesians 5 a look. sacrificial love is the man's most important role in a marriage, and also the most difficult.

Alas, the love of many has waxed cold in our day...

Matthew 24:4-31
" 4 And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you. 5 For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many. 6 And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet. 7 For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places. 8 All these are the beginning of sorrows. 9 Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name's sake. 10 And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another. 11 And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many. 12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. 13 But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. 14 And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come. "

You are a man highly esteemed in my eyes. Do your best to do the right thing in each circumstance. Honor your vows to your wife.

I'll keep praying...

Tom
 
Guys,

I thought I'd give you an update. Jordy and I are talking fairly well now (it was mostly silence for a few days). I'm up and down on what I can eat. I had a banana and some tea with honey yesterday, after eating reasonably the day before.

Jordy agreed Friday night to get at least some counseling with me, but seems completely convinced that the two of us aren't right for each other. :(

Thanks for all your prayers and kind thoughts.

John
 
John, the fact that you are talking and she agreed on counseling is positive. I'll definitely send out prayers for you both.

Alan
 
I'm thinking about you all the time John.
 
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