AC prayers sent for your Brother.
"I heard you mention "high stress" honestly, it takes years of training to be well suited for high stress situations. If she's not willing, or your not willing or able to put the time into it. Buy her a old single shot H&R . Can't really get any simpler than that."
That is a real good point Todd. I may just have to sit her down and explain why she really needs to take some time and train with me, since if I am not home, it falls to her to defend our family in a bad situation. If I was gone, or got hurt and something bad was going down, her previous reluctance to familiarize herself could turn out very badly for us. Think I am going to have a conversation with her about that. I don't expect to turn her into an operator, but she should be familiar enough that she can be instinctively as comfortable as a normal person can be under those circumstances, instead of being a panicked and fumbling mess.
That is a great article Bigghoss, thanks man.
Well I may just buy two guns ..lol one for home defensive purposes for the wife, and one that I want.
There is the Rossi 5 or 6 shot 410 revolver shotgun that is a carbine. no pumping, no gas system or feed mechanism to fail. Just a simple revolver that throws spray.
I am thinking that this thing with a light mounted might be good for her. Simple, light, compact, and while not a 12 gauge, 410 is still a shotgun, and she could certainly manage that recoil way easier than a 12 gauge.
Thanks a ton so far for all the input guys. Really good points made, and it has made me consider things that I hadn't thought of in my sizing up of what to get.