What to do if your spouse hates knives?

My wife will sometimes jab me about another knife in the house, and then I started trading for my quality knives and got the quantity down. Her EDC is now as good if not better than mine is most days. Once I found out what the problem was (we have small child, don't want him getting hurt) the problem was remedied. Knives are locked up when not in use and where he can't reach them. She also wasn't raised around knives growing up like I was. When I showed her my first pocket knife and my dads EDC knife she kind of understood. Its a legacy for me...something to pass down to my children when they get older or I die. Good luck on the outcome.
 
If you're spending her money, then that's that, and you need a better paying job.

If you're spending your own money, tell her to bend over.
 
How about this start collecting STD's. And then ask her witch she would rather have around lol. In all seriousness it sound's like a jealousy issue. My girlfriend of nine year's used to get jealous of my (believe it or not) magazines. ridiculous right. There is to ways you can go about it. You can A tell her to mind her own damn business and that she needs to stop being childish. Or you can tell her that they are just material possession's. And are just for stress relieving and fun. That you love her but your not going to quit. And try to take her out to a movie or dinner(Not saying you don't) once a week. Ether way good luck.
 
i'd sort that sort of thing out before meeting a chick at the altar.

hmm. perhaps that's why i'm single....
 
Is there anything you can call her out on, like buying shoes, purses, clothing, etc constantly? If so, that should even things out. If not, you're screwed.
 
Hey, this is a delicate situation. Something is tripping her trigger here besides your love of knives. Maybe she, or someone she knows, is victim of violent crime and "unnecessary" knifes equal danger to her. Or maybe someone she was close to committed suicide. Who knows. But those kinds of feelings are more powerful than most people realize.

Or maybe, she is envious of your attention and affection to knives, as others have said. In that case, she just needs reassurance. Your love for knives in NO way negates your love for her. They are, of course, two different things, but she just sees it as a distraction from your time together. I think that if you FIRST let her know that you love her, but you SECOND need (and deserve) a hobby to relax and be happy, that she will understand.

Good Luck, Bro!
 
Recently my wife made a remark about how much I was spending on knives and guns.

So, I sat down, went over the bank statements, did a spread sheet, and showed her that I had spent LESS on knives and guns over the past year, than she had spent on shoes and purses. I went all logical on her, and she hasn't said a thing since.

She doesn't object to them though, she just thought I was spending too much. This is the lady who said after Obama got the Democratic nomination, "I think we need to buy a few more AK's, and some more ammo." She even carries a Spyderco Police model daily.
 
I'm one of those lucky stiffs with a great gal who likes my knives.She was raised by a knife guy (her dad) so I think we're a great match.
 
Jess67 said:
Recently my wife made a remark about how much I was spending on knives and guns.

So, I sat down, went over the bank statements, did a spread sheet, and showed her that I had spent LESS on knives and guns over the past year, than she had spent on shoes and purses. I went all logical on her, and she hasn't said a thing since.
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Haha:D :thumbup::thumbup:
 
I tried to convince my gf that these are tools to be used for camping nd outdoors type activities but it's recently gone completely pair shaped. SHe tried to put a brave face on it but she really dislikes them. SHe thinks its creepy because she sees them as weapons while I see them as just cool stuff to have. She doesn't think I want to use them against people but she can't get past her aversion to them.

I've recently tried to a different tangent by looking at buying kitchen knives but it's just not the same. I like collecting bushcraft and survival gear and I like sharpening them. It's a guy thing.

She's not happy though.
 
Glad my wife loves them now. She used to freak out at the beginning seeing a room full of knives. Now she is so fond of them every time asks me about the finishes and the purpose when I buy a new or browsing through the web. Her favorite finish Crusader Forge Oblander 02 with Tiger Stripe finish.
Give her time. Eventually she will accept it. :)
 
Davor said:
I only have two fixed knives, and maybe 4 pocket knives and one hatchet. I can't tell you what a s... storm I received when the hatchet came in the mail. And today I received a 4 inch paring knife and that s.... storm became a f.... severe storm.
After our lovely marital fight, if you are not married don't do it, I attempted to explain to her there is nothing wrong with collecting a few knives. Didn't work. Any advice on how to convince someone that knife collecting is not the devil's hobby? You can throw in some wife jokes and/or grow some balls, but at the end give me and some of the other fed up husbands some advice.:mad:
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I think most married woman had the idea
"what ever yours is mine, and what ever mine still mine.
so whenever you spend your money to buy your thing,
you are spending my money"
don't know about your lady but mine do:(
 
I still say kick her to the curb, it will only get worse as time goes on. ;)

If it's not about knives it will always be something else.

You will be better off in the long run.

Find someone else who won't give you these headaches. :)

Once they start telling you what you can and can't buy there is a real issue there and it's time to part company.

That is one of the biggest RED FLAGS in any relationship.
 
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Just tell her to shut up and go cook you something. :D

My wife used to give me a hard time about my knives, but after much calm reasoning, and a lot of time, she has come to accept that being a knife guy is part of who I am. Now I don't tell her how to spend her money, and she doesn't tell me how to spend mine. After 10 years of marriage, we still have separate bank accounts, and that ain't gonna change. As long as the bills get paid, there is no fighting.

Just wait until your wife gets pregnant. Then you get to go through the process of convincing her that knives are okay all over again. :rolleyes: Just be patient. Fighting and screaming accomplishes nothing except making things worse.

A very wise man once told me the secret of a successful marriage. He said "When one of you is at your worst, the other needs to be at their best."
Getting a divorce over such a silly thing as knives is ridiculous. Patience, understanding and communication is what you need. :thumbup:
 
moonwilson said:
Just tell her to shut up and go cook you something. :D

My wife used to give me a hard time about my knives, but after much calm reasoning, and a lot of time, she has come to accept that being a knife guy is part of who I am. Now I don't tell her how to spend her money, and she doesn't tell me how to spend mine. After 10 years of marriage, we still have separate bank accounts, and that ain't gonna change. As long as the bills get paid, there is no fighting.

Just wait until your wife gets pregnant. Then you get to go through the process of convincing her that knives are okay all over again. :rolleyes: Just be patient. Fighting and screaming accomplishes nothing except making things worse.

A very wise man once told me the secret of a successful marriage. He said "When one of you is at your worst, the other needs to be at their best."
Getting a divorce over such a silly thing as knives is ridiculous. Patience, understanding and communication is what you need. :thumbup:
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If there is a control problem already then that is not good at all. ;)

The OP sure doesn't need to get her pregnant on top of it, then he will really be screwed.

It's not about knives, the problem is control and he needs to get rid of her now before it's too late.
 
Bill86 said:
My thinking is you have to get rid of the knives or the wife...There are more women out there and those new knives you have do hold their value. The woman not so much.
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I loved this one!!! I almost spit my drink all over my keyboard:D

I know this is a serious issue but this one brought some needed humor to the topic:thumbup:
 
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