What to do if your spouse hates knives?

Yep, I married a european woman who just didn't get the whole guns and knives thing. After a while though it was my "guns", or "knives" and she never noticed that some were different or new. I just never bought them in front of her. I ran a slush fund and that part worked out well.

If she's the type that just will never be satisfied with you why invest more into it though?

Time to cut her loose. There are plenty of great women out there that will deserve your respect and share interests to a degree.

Doesn't really sound like she's that for you though.

Good luck.
 
Davor said:
She is a foreigner who believes knife collecting is stupid and only belong in the kitchen, dull. Its a cultural issue. I go into phases where I will get interested in different hobbies. My first interest in knives began as a young teen and it came back in my late 30s. No financial issues either. Oh btw, snakes as pets too are forbidden along with porn. Mother in law was nicer last month when she visited and just looked at me very puzzled and ask why I like knives. I looked at her as puzzled and said why not. I'm from Texas, where we collect guns and knives. :grumpy: Our social status is the same, both college graduates, but good point on the foreigner part, its a real big culture issue.
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Ok but is knife collecting stupid? It's not, absolutely not, and nobody on this planet can argue that it is [in it's objective form], SO, the next question/extrapolation is that is your wife's family somewhat displeased with the marriage initially, maybe in just a minor way? Some reason.....they were a little 'flat' to begin with and.....now?.....I know this may sound base, but if you send them some significant gift or money you will "magically" notice your wife start to accept your hobby. :( If I am wrong, then I profusely apologize, I am only trying to be helpful. ;)

Sad but true, ya gotta play the game....
 
this is an amazing thread. laughing my ass off.

as far as advice goes, sorry holmes, she sounds like a buzzkill. my girlfriend didn't like my first Swamp Rat... until it arrived. then she wanted to use it in the kitchen all the time. the more knives that were around, the more she dug them. she now prefers a Buck 112 for food prep. we use my Gerber Gator specifically to pop holes in the bottom of cans when we shotgun beers and listen to the radio. good times :thumbup::thumbup:
 
Davor said:
I only have two fixed knives, and maybe 4 pocket knives and one hatchet. I can't tell you what a s... storm I received when the hatchet came in the mail. And today I received a 4 inch paring knife and that s.... storm became a f.... severe storm.
After our lovely marital fight, if you are not married don't do it, I attempted to explain to her there is nothing wrong with collecting a few knives. Didn't work. Any advice on how to convince someone that knife collecting is not the devil's hobby? You can throw in some wife jokes and/or grow some balls, but at the end give me and some of the other fed up husbands some advice.:mad:
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stab your wife with the knife and F the stab hole :jerkit: haha seriously though, ya gotta grow a set and tell your wife to chill out cuz the fact is that its your money and you can do what you want with it. Unless your unemployed and its her money which is being spent, she has no say in the subject and she is lucky she isnt being beaten. Normally I don't condone domestic violence but...:eek: Show her once and there ain't a chance she will ever bitch about it again! Some times ya gotta be cruel to be kind cuz in the end, it might just save your marriage...:yawn:
 
you could always just have it shipped to your girlfriends house. problem solved, your wife will never know about it and if she does, who cares haha. you think she will be more mad about the knifes or the chick your banging on the side?
 
Show her your soul, you appreciate knives tell her why, think about what you want to express and compose your feelings to her, make it your quest that you want her tolerance and even support for your hobby. Make it very clear and give her time to change but in the meantime put the knives away for a bit, not all away just keep them away from her a little more so you can show compromise, if she has any sense and really loves you she'll see the light, find a compromise at least temporarily otherwise get that ultimatum spiffed up.

Maybe something like "knives make me feel like a natural man, without them it is unnatural" "I am confident in being able to guy stuff with knives, survival, a connection to man's origins" make knives a respected capable tool in her mind, show reverence for being able to cut stuff, for yourself, with a blade that is yours and not going down the street to find someone to do your cutting for you. Find a useful aspect of knives to make her more aware of so she can see their importance in the grand scheme of things for herself do it over time like a movie as a one time snapshot speech aint gonna get it., after all when we look around us almost every single thing has been cut in some way, no?

We can all admit there is an extreme fringe to knife collecting, LOL, make sure she knows how you are different from this fringe, it is easy for a foreigner to our society to develop misconceptions and mis-associate things.
 
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Simple: your preferences are not secondary to your spouse's. Any woman who wants to date me must accept that I like collecting and displaying weapons.

If she doesn't like it, she can take a hike, because I'm certainly not going to give up something I enjoy so much - not when there are so many other women who are tolerant of it.
 
There never was an argument won by yelling.

There's a deeper issue, my guess is control.

My other guess, the MIL is goading your wife.
 
I've had 2 ex-wives. They didn't like my knives, they didn't like my guns, they didn't like my cigars, and they weren't too happy about my beer. That's why they're ex's. Life is much less stressful now.
 
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cultural differences generally wouldn't be enough for her to get that upset about your hobby. before I was married I dated women from all over and none of them were every angry about my hobbies, even if they didn't understand them. go get some damn counseling and find out what's going on with her. sounds like it's a bigger issue than the knives, and if you can't solve the problem then you're hosed.
 
glockman99 said:
Just tell your wife to mind her own damn business when it comes to your knives, and let her know that you could be collecting women, rather than knives.:D.
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This is true. Tell her to deal with it and accept it. My wife is understanding yet she has no love for my blades.
 
din said:
cultural differences generally wouldn't be enough for her to get that upset about your hobby. before I was married I dated women from all over and none of them were every angry about my hobbies, even if they didn't understand them. go get some damn counseling and find out what's going on with her. sounds like it's a bigger issue than the knives, and if you can't solve the problem then you're hosed.
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I agree. :)

There is a much bigger issue than just the knives, likely a serious control issue and or MIL is involved.

Either find out what that is if you think she is worth the effort or send her packing.

If you find that's it's a control issue or the MIL is involved send her packing like yesterday as it will only get worse over time.
 
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