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Charlie Mike said:
Thanks to all... I'm pretty drunk right now, only way I can cope at the time. Just spent an hour talikng to mom. This sucks from every angle.
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Its sadly Ironic that your brother kills someone because he drives drunk and you get drunk to cope with his addiction. You my friend have very serious problems. You stopped drinking for six months..why in the hell did you start again? You mentioned that you wanted to get your life together and get off welfare. Yet your sitting here trying to solve your problems with weed and Booze. Come on C.M. wake up.

You spent a little over a year in Iraq. Are you going to spend the next 19 dealing with it? Do something for your brother. Get Sober, Get Clean, Get a life.

You have people willing to support your recovery. But not killing yourself.

some straight talk from Ren

RTDTB
 
Ren, what you just said made me cry.
 
Charlie Mike said:
Ren, what you just said made me cry.
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Dude do yourself a favor...flush the booze and go to bed. Tomorrow toss out the weed and see your doctor. ONLY YOU have the power to change your life so change it. Medical Weed, Pills, Booze will not help you cope. Good old fashioned self worth and work will do things you never dreamed of. Get a grip and do something. Tomorrow..it starts if you want it..How bad do you want it..
 
I can't promise you I'll do that. I will overcome. Just not tomorrow.
 
Here is my 1k post. Freeman be a free man and quit the booze and drugs. Do not let these things control you. Stop. Think. Take a breath. Take a walk. Smile and spit. Remember your training. Now kiss your wife, tell your mother you love her, get rid of the booze, and charlie mike on the right mission.
 
Thanks guys. I'm trying to equate what I did in the war to what my brother did... I can't balance the equation. I'm giving up all mind bending chemicals for lent.
 
Charlie Mike said:
Thanks guys. I'm trying to equate what I did in the war to what my brother did... I can't balance the equation. I'm giving up all mind bending chemicals for lent.
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you're trying to compare apples and kangaroos.


what one does in a war cannot compare to what someone else has done stateside.

no connection, no equation. be fair to yourself and your brother. while you and your family may carry some of the burden of his choices, the penalty is his to bear.

remember the choices he made, and choose differently.
 
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One dead two injured , if that wont sober a man up , nothing will .

Matt , get sober and help your family , they need you more than ever .

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OMG. matt im so sorry to hear this. when i really take in what happened, it was insane. I'm crying for everyone. you, your family, and the family of the man whose life was tragecially ended. BUT matt, dont let booze and wedd control you. Nor meth or coccaine or ecstasy. I'll be there to help you!
 
Thoughts and prayers headed out to everyone involved.

Charlie Mike said:
I can't promise you I'll do that. I will overcome. Just not tomorrow.
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Man, I know you probably don't want to hear this now and I'm not trying to be an a-hole but, with that mindset, it will always be just not tomorrow...

Take the excellent advice offered here, stop self medicating, and seek legit professional help. If not for yourself then do it for your mom, brother, wife, and everyone else who cares about you.
 
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Thats ****** up. Sorry for all parties involved. It sucks when a mistake comes with such tragic consequences. You know what your job is now dont you? It's to help your Mom through this, and remember to lean on your wife, that's what a partner is for.

Good luck, and remember, even though your kind of crazy you have lots of friends.
 
I'm sorry to hear about this Matt. :(

Your brother has handed him self and at least two families a huge burden to carry over this. I can only wish the best of luck to all involved.
 
I'm sorry for your family CM.:(

Ren has given you good advise,I suggest you follow it.

You're the only one who can end your addiction,no one else,only you.Sure you can see a professional,it may help you a lot,but YOU have to want to quit.Also hate to say it, but no matter how much your wife says she loves you,there's only so much shit she can take.
Clean yer ass up pleeze!& be there for Mom.
 
I'm afraid that I have to disagree with some --including my friend Ren -- here when it comes to your brother. While I won't try to excuse or justify his alleged actions, I will still pray for the best outcome for him. Among other thing's, I'm not going to make any judgement based on the limited information here. The other man was rather old; maybe he lost control of his car and contributed to the accident somehow. I don't know. I do know that I'm not going to rush to condemn anyone without all the facts. I also know that no amount of hand wringing here will help rectify the situation. This is a very tough case and I'll be praying for all involved.
 
Charlie Mike said:
Thanks guys. I'm trying to equate what I did in the war to what my brother did... I can't balance the equation.
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you can't balance it because there is no equation there at all. Not everything can be equated to something in Iraq.
 
Some people have to learn about drunk driving the "hard way"
I did
I am reminded of my fateful desion back in 1986 to hop on my motorcycle drunk, everyday
When I see the scars on my body and my knee hurts to hell
I'm actually glad I didn't kill or hurt anyone else...

I have several friends who have multiple DUI's
I tell them one time you are gonna crash into a packed minivan and kill 6 innocent people
No matter what you tell them, they still drive drunk
I can't figure it out
Well..I can..sorta
It has to do with alcohol decreasing your "good judgement" at the moment
I have no problems with alcoholics
As long as they stay off the road:mad:

I'll refrain from telling you to stop all the stuff you put in your body
I'm certainly not one to cast any stones in that realm
I will say this===>
You have to want to quit by yourself
You know what you you have to do
Go to AA meetings or whatever you did to stay sober for 6 months
Get a hobby
Go for bike ride
Sharpen a knife
Read a book
Walk on the beach
It's a life long battle, as you well know

I just read California Penal Code 191.5
It looks like 15 yrs to life
It is sad this happened to someone so young
He'll be 38 when he gets out if he only gets 15 yrs
I guess you could start your life over at 38:confused:
It has been done...................

I know I may have ribbed you about your new found faith
I think in situations like these
The church can be a real help
It helped many of my family members over come adversities

What are your brother's injuries?
Broken bones? Is he gonna make it out ok? Any surgeries yet?

What Gollnick said is true though
Maybe with a good lawyer he can get the charges reduced or something?
Maybe the family of the victim will be forgiving towards your brother?

I really empathise with the family of the victim as well :(
Driving along, minding your own business
And someone in Fresno may have lost a grandpa too

Smoke sent to the northeast CM
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CM,

I know I am new comer here, but I have been lurking for a long time. Ren is right. I have, vicariously, through the forums, watched you evolve into something more than you were. Now you are throwing it away for what? You were never truly sober. Sure, you quit drinking for 6 months, which is no small feat. But, you still smoked pot and no telling what else. My brother has had 3 DUI's in his life and at 40 is finally getting his life back together and starting to make something of himself. You owe to your brother to not go down the same way he did. Sure, he is your younger brother, but let his experience sober you up for good. Don't wait for lent, don't wait next week, do it now. There is nothing stopping you. I wish you the best of luck and will pray for your brother as much as I can, but I'm not going to lie, he deserves to spend the rest of his life in jail, but I will pray that God's will be done.

Regards,
Zack
 
Your brother killed somone while DUI.....that is his burden.

When I was in the Navy, I learned that NO ONE carries your burden...it is your ass serving, your ass on duty, your ass responsible for whatever you are responsible for. Survivor's guilt is understandable, but not a question that can be answered by anyone but G_d.

You need rituals at this point in your life, NOW.

The ritual of waking up in the morning, and making your bed.
The ritual of morning exercise, and personal hygiene
The ritual of cleaning up your home, caring for your animals if you have any.
The ritual of the morning meal, and cleaning up for that.
The ritual of going to work.
The ritual of volunteering for those who have less than you, if you're unemployed.
The ritual of coming home from work or volunteering and greeting the night.
The ritual of preparing the evening meal, and cleaning up after that.
The ritual of working your program, and thanking the universe for your life.
The ritual of preparing for bed.

I internalized these rituals after following the words of my Sensei, the great Don Fogg, a warrior who goes before me:

http://www.dfoggknives.com/wayof.htm

Now Don Fogg Sensei may be referring specifically to Bladesmithing, because that is his Way, but if you look at it just below the surface, you will see that he is talking about all of us, and our own personal Way.

Free your mind and your ass will follow.

Best Regards,

STeven Garsson
 
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