Smoke needed

Matt,
Smoke sent from here. I have not walked in your shoes, so I will not judge. If you should want to talk, please call me. If you don't still have my number(s), please pm me and I will get them to you.

Matt
 
I have been following this thread since the beginning. It's a crying shame that one troll can turn something like this into a pissing match.

CM, you have my condolences. I can't even imagine the pain something like this can cause.:(
 
CM - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. It is going to be a long haul back to any level of sanity and your family needs you. Try some extended excercise, like a run, into exhaustion to burn off your toxins and help reset your mind. It is an ordeal, and means your family is going to be calling on you for some while.

The family who lost their grandfather are hurting and have my sympathy. This has really hit many people deeply.
 
Tim-Gabz said:
Try some extended excercise, like a run, into exhaustion to burn off your toxins and help reset your mind.
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That's a good idea. I just strapped on my Corcorans. A few miles sound in order today.
 
Charlie Mike said:
That's a good idea. I just strapped on my Corcorans. A few miles sound in order today.
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Do it. I've always been active, but In the past 18 months or so, I have found that habitual exercise can displace other compulsions. Real pathological exercise addicts are a sorry sight to see, but becoming one is a pretty minimal risk.
 
Ran approx 1 mile... then started sucking. Sucks when your congested and can't breathe through your nose. I'd really like to get back to a perfect APFT 300.
 
Charlie Mike said:
That's a good idea. I just strapped on my Corcorans. A few miles sound in order today.
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Hey Matt,

Just some sound advice from a brother......

Do not go out running in public with adult store novelties strapped on to you. I am sure there are Sex Offender laws that prohibit that sort of behavior. Besides, it will scare the kiddies.

I recommend you get some running shoes, and throw away the cigarettes. If you want to have some fun, run with a car stereo in your hand, and keep looking behind you while running. It will attract some attention. We all know how much you like attention. :D

Anyways, remember one day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time. Exercise is the best thing for anxiety, it works wonders. Prayers still incoming for you, your family, and the victims family. Make sure you go to the Pasadena Knife show in March..... Friday if possible.
 
cj65 said:
I recommend you get some running shoes, and throw away the cigarettes. If you want to have some fun, run with a car stereo in your hand, and keep looking behind you while running. It will attract some attention. We all know how much you like attention. :D

Anyways, remember one day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time. Exercise is the best thing for anxiety, it works wonders. Prayers still incoming for you, your family, and the victims family. Make sure you go to the Pasadena Knife show in March..... Friday if possible.
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I got a Costco gift card from the in laws for my birthday ($80 I think), so that's going toward patches for the wife and I. I can't make the Pasadena show, I can't warrant the cost of gas and a hotel for the next 6 months or so. I will definitely make the Plaza show in Oct though.
http://www.plazacutlery.com/PCcustomknifeshowMain.htm
 
Great news. I think I shared my story with you regarding living with a cat, and how I had to make a choice, live with my fiance (I had no other place to live) with a cat, which required no smoking (if I wanted to be able to breathe without panic), or leave that household. Well, the cat is gone, the cigarettes are gone, and I just now inhaled deeply, and am thankful that nicotene is not ahold of me no more. 4 plus years. You can do it, and it does feel great. If you get the urge, go for a walk. If you break down and smoke, do not get down on yourself, try again. Gradual decrease may be the right path for you.
 
My understanding is it's better to quit drinking first, and don't even think about quitting smoking until you are sure you really have quit drinking. One thing at a time is hard enough. No doubt the old hands in AA can advise you better than I can, but that's the way I've heard it.
 
Apart from saving gas - walk. I was super stressed some 3 years back, outta shape and had to go on meds for BP, Stress and Depression. Got myself fit and fine again (yep I had let it slip). I hated the antidepressants they sometimes gave me the heebeejebies at night if I forgot one.

First thing in the morning is to walk my kids to school - does them good and me good as well. The world is in the toilet and that is a poor place for people to use as a base line, lump other problems and it can get outta hand quickly.
 
CM - I've been following this from the beginning, and you and the victim's family have our condolences.

Seems to me this will be one of those things that years from now, as terrible as this situation is, you'll be stronger for having gone through it.

Some advice from a friend of mine, a recovered alcoholic: let your wife help you. If you start letting go, and want to start the drinking & weed again, have an agreement with her that she'll call friends. Agree that you won't stop her, and that you'll let those friends help you. If you do that, and keep your word, each day will get easier, & each day you'll get stronger. You're human, like the rest of us.** You can't do it alone.

And you certainly can't help your family if you're buzzed. Your mind is your greatest strength, or your biggest weakness. You decide which it is.

thx - cpr

** ps - except that symphony guy. He ain't human. He's a troll. And he's just upset 'cause he probably shook all his dirt off, and he's cold.
 
Sorry to hear this Matt. My sympathy to all three families involved. But I hope you yourself have used this past year more wisely. Kudos to you if so.
 
Not sure what to say, CM. I read a few of the comments and it sounds like he drew a tough judge. I hope many people will learn from his mistake and I hope he comes out the other side OK. Smoke and Prayers to both families.
 
Impartially speaking, I'd have imposed a 10 year minimum for a DUI caused death. I would also impose one year probation on my mother, whom he lived with, for not confiscating his car and keys after his first DUI 3 months earlier.
 
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Justice and accountability can be hard, harsh things Matt. What's done is done... Do what you can for your brother and be there for your mother. I pray that your brother will pass time easily and find peace as he moves forward from this. Prayers for you all Matt.
 
Sorry, but although a message has been sent, no one will be reading it. His time in prison will only guarantee that HE won't be driving drunk until he is released.

The number of people with repeated DUIs proves me right.
 
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