Stu, if you use PayPal, keep these two points in mind.
Side agreements, even in writing between you, do not obligate PayPal. If the item does not arrive, they will refund the buyer.
He may have said he will "take responsibility" but if the item does not arrive and he files a claim, PayPal will issue him the refund.
Along the same lines, if the buyer says to ship to his friend in America who will get it to him, make sure his friend's address is on his PayPal list of confirmed delivery points. Otherwise you have just gifted his friend the item and PayPal will ... refund the money to the buyer because that item never arrived at the address registered with PayPal.
Do it by the book. PayPal's book. Side agreements don't count.
Couldn't agree more Esav. I wish everyone took the care and time to read and understand the terms of use of the services they use.
That's why I added the part about requiring "cash" payment even after terms are agreed to.
I laugh to myself when I see a seller that takes PayPal giving the buyer the option of buying insurance for the item being purchased. The buyer already did that when he/she paid with PayPal, the seller is just screwing himself out of insurance.
Personally I wouldn't let a seller think we had an agreement that I had forgone insurance and then turn around and leverage a refund through the PayPal rules. I believe two consenting adults should be able to agree to just about anything, and if I tell you I'm responsible for any loss after you ship, I would be. I would never agree to that, but if I did.
I don't expect Bladeforums mods to enforce/police any aspect of the actual terms of sale agreed upon by the two parties in trades/sales I engage in here, the "side agreements" you refer to. I do expect them to moderate the airing of grievances in Feedback GBU, and ultimately remove members who unquestionably attempt to defraud other members (weather successful or not).
My concern is moderators possibly enforcing rules that don't exist, and making statements that are inconsistent with the rules. The most repeated one IMO is:
"no deal is done until both parties are satisfied",
and specific to this thread:
"It's the sellers responsibility to ensure the package gets to the buyer. That means doing a little homework to figure out the legality of such an item....It doesn't matter if you state "I am not responsible for the item once I ship it", that is BS."
The first one is so vague as to be laughable, and the second IMO should be beyond the reasonable purview of this forum and the mods ability, regardless of the noble intentions. Both can cause serious misunderstandings and/or give people the false impression that they are somehow less responsible to do their own due diligence when trading here.