Please help.

[Schakalicious]

No but seriously
Just wait till things simmer down, then surprise your Mother with them new opinel's. :applause:
I'd imagine it's rough having this go back and forth.
Hopefully things will work out.

Thanks. I can't win... Lol

 

[marcinek]

So I stayed home sick today, and I was bored. As a surprise for my mom, I decided to sharpen all of the kitchen knives, because as I said, they're really dull. I live with my grandparents, my aunt, my parents, and 2 siblings. My aunt saw me sharpening the kitchen knives, and now thinks I'm some crazy murderer. She's giving my dad crap about it, and now we're back to square 1. They won't let me have the knife again, and my dad said not to get my mom the opinels. I was just trying to do something nice for my mom, and I got screwed for it. Ugh I just can't win

With all due respect, that was an incredibly stupid thing to do, and was something we all warned you against. You have not shown you are mature enough have a knife, they are just playthings for you, and I agree with your family.

Thanks for ignoring us all, and good riddance.

 

[Bobby3326]

With all due respect, that was an incredibly stupid thing to do, and was something we all warned you against. You have not shown you are mature enough have a knife, they are just playthings for you, and I agree with your family.

Thanks for ignoring us all, and good riddance.

How in the hell does him sharpening the DULL knives that need sharpened translate to being play things? He wasn't out hacking up trees and bushes, he wasn't being irresponsible with them....

Maybe you need to get off your high horse looking down on younger members

 

[ocnLogan]

With all due respect, that was an incredibly stupid thing to do, and was something we all warned you against. You have not shown you are mature enough have a knife, they are just playthings for you, and I agree with your family.

Thanks for ignoring us all, and good riddance.

I think his heart is in the right place, but perhaps due to his age he's not quite seeing how important it is to clearly communicate what is going on.

Schakalicious I get the desire to sharpen kitchen knives, I really do. The problem with this is it "looks" like you waited until your parents weren't around to do something that could be construed as "sketchy" (since this whole thing started with you buying something "behind their back" (from their perspective anyway)). I mean, how do they know you were actually sick? From their perspective it might look like you're ditching school/work/etc (not sure if school is still in where you are) to stay home and "play" with the kitchen knives. I bet you can at least see kind of where they are coming from.

Anyway, the solution to this problem is try extra hard right now to only use knives with their knowledge/supervision, and not give them any reason to think you're doing something behind their back. Also, spending some time talking about why you sharpened (trying to help your mom), and even overtly trying to learn and apply proper knife technique and safety.

I think that over time the situation will resolve itself. You just have to be patient.

Heck, maybe showing interest in cooking, or bushcraft will help them understand (both of those require knives, and aren't "creepy" at all). Just make sure not to force the issue.

Just communicate well, no matter what you end up doing. It makes a huge difference.

Anyway, good luck .

 

[Schakalicious]

How in the hell does him sharpening the DULL knives that need sharpened translate to being play things? He wasn't out hacking up trees and bushes, he wasn't being irresponsible with them....

Maybe you need to get off your high horse looking down on younger members

Thanks bobby. My thoughts exactly. I just wanted to brighten my moms day a little. Hopefully tonight when she uses them she'll forgive me. They can all shave my arm hair now lol.

 

[Schakalicious]

With all due respect, that was an incredibly stupid thing to do, and was something we all warned you against. You have not shown you are mature enough have a knife, they are just playthings for you, and I agree with your family.

Thanks for ignoring us all, and good riddance.

By the way, I saw your post pre edit. I'm not a troll. I thought we had that established. Maybe you're losing your memory in you old age .

 

[Quiet]

"My parents told me I could only use knives while under supervision. So, while I was NOT under supervision, I went and handled a bunch of knives."

There were literally any number of other things you could have done instead if you were bored and wanted to do something nice for your parents. So, I don't understand why your immediate thought was "Let me go handle a bunch of knives while they're gone.". You might be in for a dry spell over this one.

 

[Schakalicious]

"My parents told me I could only use knives while under supervision. So, while I was NOT under supervision, I went and handled a bunch of knives."

There were literally any number of other things you could have done instead if you were bored and wanted to do something nice for your parents. So, I don't understand why your immediate thought was "Let me go handle a bunch of knives while they're gone.". You might be in for a dry spell over this one.

I said earlier that they let me use kitchen knives, just not my tenacious. Plus my (crazy) aunt was the one that it freaked out. I just talked to my mom. She said she's actually happy I sharpened them, she just doesn't want to deal with my aunt.

 

[Quiet]

I said earlier that they let me use kitchen knives, just not my tenacious. Plus my (crazy) aunt was the one that it freaked out. I just talked to my mom. She said she's actually happy I sharpened them, she just doesn't want to deal with my aunt.

That seems odd that your mother wouldn't tell her sister to mind her business then, and that she'll raise her child (you) as she sees fit. Best of luck, man.

 

[Schakalicious]

That seems odd that your mother wouldn't tell her sister to mind her business then, and that she'll raise her child (you) as she sees fit. Best of luck, man.

Yeah, she's tried that. My aunt just doesn't listen. Were pretty sure she has mental issues. She just sits in her room popping xanax all day.

 

[kniferbro]

By the way, I saw your post pre edit. I'm not a troll. I thought we had that established. Maybe you're losing your memory in you old age .

There are members here that treat it like their job to point out every thing wrong with someone's post, and cry troll at every chance they get with out even really knowing what trolling is. Don't pay them much mind and things will be fine.

I have two bits of advice:

1. Try not to share your whole life in posts. The less you share the more likely people will take your posts seriously, and less stuff for people to pick at.

2. DO NOT cut your self. This whole situation will explode if you cut your self on accident. Any hopes of a positive outcome for you now = no cuts!

 

[Schakalicious]

There are members here that treat it like their job to point out every thing wrong with someone's post, and cry troll at every chance they get with out even really knowing what trolling is. Don't pay them much mind and things will be fine.

I have two bits of advice:

1. Try not to share your whole life in posts. The less you share the more likely people will take your posts seriously, and less stuff for people to pick at.

2. DO NOT cut your self. This whole situation will explode if you cut your self on accident. Any hopes of a positive outcome for you now = no cuts!

Alright thanks. Next time I open a thread it will be mostly knife only, and very little of my real life. And no (serious) cuts yet.

 

[k_ozdragon]

I dont think you're too young if you are working. That's responsibility enough right there. People like your mom will probably cut you off as you begin to make valid points to her, so one of the best ways to get her to listen is to write down your thoughts and show her. Honestly, show her this post. It was well written, thought out, and above all: honest. You wrote it intending for others to read and support you, therefore she can read it and see your unedited thoughts and know there's no deception in them. I dont know if you live in California (kept seeing people mention it in their posts) but if you do, try to bring her to my work. I get this conversation a lot from parents who dont understand that a knife really is a tool and NOT a weapon. You could do just as much damage with a hammer yet no one cares about that. Its in the city of Orange at the Orange Mall and is called Knife Gallery. I'm there Tues-Fri from 2pm to close. Ask for Derek. Its in a mall, so if you live in the area you can most likely get her to go with you. But again, if that's not an option, seriously ask her to read what you just wrote. Also ask her to notice the 200 replies you've received.

 

[Schakalicious]

I dont think you're too young if you are working. That's responsibility enough right there. People like your mom will probably cut you off as you begin to make valid points to her, so one of the best ways to get her to listen is to write down your thoughts and show her. Honestly, show her this post. It was well written, thought out, and above all: honest. You wrote it intending for others to read and support you, therefore she can read it and see your unedited thoughts and know there's no deception in them. I dont know if you live in California (kept seeing people mention it in their posts) but if you do, try to bring her to my work. I get this conversation a lot from parents who dont understand that a knife really is a tool and NOT a weapon. You could do just as much damage with a hammer yet no one cares about that. Its in the city of Orange at the Orange Mall and is called Knife Gallery. I'm there Tues-Fri from 2pm to close. Ask for Derek. Its in a mall, so if you live in the area you can most likely get her to go with you. But again, if that's not an option, seriously ask her to read what you just wrote. Also ask her to notice the 200 replies you've received.

Yeah, I did show her this. And I have no idea why people keep bringing up CA, I'm from CT.

 

[Schakalicious]

I dont think you're too young if you are working. That's responsibility enough right there. People like your mom will probably cut you off as you begin to make valid points to her, so one of the best ways to get her to listen is to write down your thoughts and show her. Honestly, show her this post. It was well written, thought out, and above all: honest. You wrote it intending for others to read and support you, therefore she can read it and see your unedited thoughts and know there's no deception in them. I dont know if you live in California (kept seeing people mention it in their posts) but if you do, try to bring her to my work. I get this conversation a lot from parents who dont understand that a knife really is a tool and NOT a weapon. You could do just as much damage with a hammer yet no one cares about that. Its in the city of Orange at the Orange Mall and is called Knife Gallery. I'm there Tues-Fri from 2pm to close. Ask for Derek. Its in a mall, so if you live in the area you can most likely get her to go with you. But again, if that's not an option, seriously ask her to read what you just wrote. Also ask her to notice the 200 replies you've received.

Thanks for your help

 

[k_ozdragon]

No prob man I just hope everything works out for you. The knife is only a weapon if YOU *choose* to use it that way. She should trust you enough and have faith in you to not do that. Besides, if you dont have the knife then you'll have to go back to the box cutter and those stupid things cause more injuries every year than knives do. They're def more dangerous to you.

 

[bflying]

And worst case scenario, buy a gun, and trade it to your Mom for the knife back.

Kidding....please don't do that. But as a parent, I know I'm much more open to my kids when they come to discuss an issue/want in an open and mature manner. One kid could out reason us by the time she was 5, and was out living on her own working two jobs before her 18th birthday. The others, well, not so much.

But I have to admit, I got my first knife for my 5th birthday. I was really infatuated with an older brothers scouting activities. So I got a tiny pack, canteen, mess kit, and a big overdone hobo knife (with knife, saw, can opener, spoon, fork, and a half dozen other things I don't remember). I don't remember even being able to get the knife open without help. And obviously it was put up, and only given to me if I wanted to go "camp" in the yard with a family member. But then I was also given my first gun at 12yo as a reward for getting my shooting merit badge and hunters safety. Which I always kept in my own room with all the ammo. But my parents also knew me and my maturity level, and that I wouldn't take it out without acknowledgement and description of where I was going to use it (hoof to open field, or get ride to gun range).

I know, different time different age. But nothing goes further with parents than a track record of responsible actions and open discussion.

By the way, I still have that hobo. It's an oldy now.

 

[Schakalicious]

And worst case scenario, buy a gun, and trade it to your Mom for the knife back.

Kidding....please don't do that. But as a parent, I know I'm much more open to my kids when they come to discuss an issue/want in an open and mature manner. One kid could out reason us by the time she was 5, and was out living on her own working two jobs before her 18th birthday. The others, well, not so much.

But I have to admit, I got my first knife for my 5th birthday. I was really infatuated with an older brothers scouting activities. So I got a tiny pack, canteen, mess kit, and a big overdone hobo knife (with knife, saw, can opener, spoon, fork, and a half dozen other things I don't remember). I don't remember even being able to get the knife open without help. And obviously it was put up, and only given to me if I wanted to go "camp" in the yard with a family member. But then I was also given my first gun at 12yo as a reward for getting my shooting merit badge and hunters safety. Which I always kept in my own room with all the ammo. But my parents also knew me and my maturity level, and that I wouldn't take it out without acknowledgement and description of where I was going to use it (hoof to open field, or get ride to gun range).

I know, different time different age. But nothing goes further with parents than a track record of responsible actions and open discussion.

By the way, I still have that hobo. It's an oldy now.

Sweet. Can you post a picture of the hobo? I like older knives.

 

[Mecha]

By the way, I saw your post pre edit. I'm not a troll. I thought we had that established. Maybe you're losing your memory in you old age .

The problem here is that your parents' behavior is so wack that telling the story makes you sound like a straight-up troll.

The solution is to let your parents know that, by stifling your muses at this impressionable age, they are driving you towards rebellion against their authority which will put you on the fast track to a life of drugs-abuse and prison time. Be sure to emphasize that it will be all their fault when this happens, but this can all be avoided if they give you back your knife.

 

[Schakalicious]

The problem here is that your parents' behavior is so wack that telling the story makes you sound like a straight-up troll.

The solution is to let your parents know that, by stifling your muses at this impressionable age, they are driving you towards rebellion against their authority which will put you on the fast track to a life of drugs-abuse and prison time. Be sure to emphasize that it will be all their fault when this happens, but this can all be avoided if they give you back your knife.

Lol not sure if id take up a life of drugs and prison over a knife, but I'll give it a shot. Oh, and the reason my parents are acting whack is because I live like 1 or 2 towns over from newtown, which is where the sandy hook shooting happened. I bet if that had never happened we wouldn't be having this conversation, because my parents would have let me have a knife.