notes from the females of the species that i'm friend with:
do not approach someone in a manner that makes THEM feel threatened. it doesn't matter what your intent is, it's how the person being approached treats it - they're opinion is the one that matters. so, as the examples i hear:
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yeah
My bro and I were in a shopping centre car park , we had taken his tow truck . I watch for out of place people in carparks .. and spotted a girl who was obviously locked out of her car .
The foot stamping , the frustrated half hearted fist on the window , the looking around for miraculous help out nowhere , and repeated lifting the door handle .. I figured it was her car . Theives dont usualy do that ..
Anyway I nudge my bro who was looking at a equally distracting looking girl and he figures yeah what the hell , we can help her out so we head over .
now we are just two guys well over 6" dressed in our usual " just crawled out from under a truck " looking black jeans and tshirts ( hides oil and grease better than white does ya know ) baking a beeline for this little girl on her own standing next to her car that she had locked her keys in ...
she went from looking frustrated worried and upset to looking like sheer panic and full on scared , ready to run like hell .
We stopped way back away from her and explained , thats our tow truck over there , she looked locked out , if she wanted we would unlock her car for her .
She nodded , my bro wanders off to his truck , puts on his fluro vest grabs his kit and wanders back , that vest put her at ease some .. not much tho
when he went to the car to open the door, talking to her the whole time " I usually charge for this but since Im not technically working today .. " , she backed up away to 1/2 along the car in front of hers away from us , when the door was opened , she bolted into the seat and was outa there so fast she almost ran over my bros feet .
now .. from our point of view we were offering help to a girl who was in a bad spot , pretty girl locked out of her car in a rough part of town , like she needs help cos she is stuck ..
from her point of view , she was locked out of her car and two rough ugly looking giants dressed like thugs come right at her ... she is now in danger of bodily harm or worse ...
I think she probably tells the story of how she barely escaped from a couple giants going to do her harm ..